Author: John Calvi

I was born in a time and a place that is gone now.  It was an enclave where the road became dirt and my family owned the land tamed for farming.  All the surrounding land was forest, miles of it.  There were no houses close together and the houses only held family.  I remember some weddings of aunts and […]

I’m standing in line, 6’ apart, outside our food coop.  This store is only allowing 50 people in at a time – when someone comes out, someone else can go in.  The line is moving very slowly.  The woman in from of me is much older.  I can feel she is now in pain for standing so long, her […]

I want to say somethings about touch- to remind you how important touch is, especially during this time of not touching.  I am speaking with some authority as one with thirty-eight years of experience as a touch professional, a Certified Massage Therapist specializing in trauma. First, a few basics.  People need touch.  No really!  This is serious.  The absence of […]

Did it all fall apart today?  Did the worst come down on you like fire and hell and rocks all at once?  Did you ever think it would be so bad?  So awful?  So full of terrible? We watch for bad things, we do.  We suspect some bad things, but never this bad, never this hard and hurtful.  We don’t expect […]

I’ve done lots of hospice work over the years.  Helping people to have as good a death as possible is a lovely, intimate, delicate work.  There’s a piece of dying that comes before, well before leaving life begins.  This is sharing the story of your life, putting the down chronology of your own journey. Often those mourning are […]